Its Valentine’s Day. Romance? Chocolate? Are they beneficial or stressful?

Last Update: February 12, 2020 at 12:22 pm

DATE:  Feb 12, 2020

SOURCE:  News for the Soul

 

Its Valentine’s Day. Romance? Chocolate? Are they beneficial or stressful?

By Dr H0lly, heard noon pacific on Wednesdays on News for the Soul Radio

 

 

 

Wednesdays at NOON PST  / 3PM EST – The Whole Health Initiative with Dr Holly  – An NFTS Global Luminary  broadcasting from Canada since March 2014 –   Dr Holly is a Doctor of Natural Medicine, a scientist, a professional speaker, an author of Cancer: Why what you don’t know about your treatment could harm you and 12 other books and a practitioner.  As a Doctor of Natural Medicine with 7 degrees & 3 designations in a wide range of healing modalities and 20 years experience, she can assist you in identifying and understanding your path to health. She can identify your underlying life themes, coping mechanisms, value systems and defense mechanisms to understanding the physiology and biochemistry and energy patterns of your body.  She has a mobile health clinic that comes to your door and can assess 1000s of variables in front of you AND create a protocol unique to you.  In addition, she provides consultation for physicians and clients around the world.

Most people probably associate Valentine’s Day with relationships, romance and chocolate. All of which can be incredibly challenging and stressful AND all of which can be fun and enjoyable. Which is it for you?

 

Relationships and Valentine’s Day

You may want to take the time to look at your romantic relationship. Is it a healthy one?

  • Does it bring out the best in you?
  • Are you prioritizing the relationship?
  • Are you ‘in love’ or are you ‘role playing’?
  • What does love mean for you?
  • What does a healthy relationship mean for you?
  • Are you both on the same page?
  • What do you need to do either individually or together to bring it alive again?

Romance and Valentine’s Day

If you are in a relationship, what does romance mean for you and your partner?

  • Is it about your partner buying you something out of the ordinary? Flowers, chocolate, a card, a teddy bear
  • Is it about making a special gift for one another?
  • Is it about making a special mean together or going out to a special restaurant?
  • Is it about giving each other a massage?
  • Is it about going somewhere special together?
  • Is it about doing something in particular with one another?
  • Do you and your partner have the same concept of romance? Have you shared your ideas of romance? Don’t expect your partner to think the same way you do or to know what you think if you haven’t shared your thoughts and ideas. Your partner is not a mind reader?
  • What if one of you works shift work? Or away on business? Or away with an unhealthy parent? Or or or? Do you have to celebrate Valentine’s Day on the 14th? Can you agree to celebrate it on a different day?
  • Do you like doing what everyone else does? When everyone else does it? Or do you want to be unique? Do something different? Create a tradition, just for the two of you?

What if you are not in a romantic relationship, then what?

  • First off, don’t stress out because you are not in a romantic relationship – you may be better off than many people in toxic relationships.
  • What if you have experienced unfortunate events on Valentine’s Day? Grief, sadness, depression, a breakup, someone died, you lost a job, there are many things that may have happened that may have made Valentine’s Day an unhappy experience in the past. Are you going to make Valentine’s Day an unhappy emotional event every year or are you going to start making it a good experience this year – the choice is yours.
  • How can you define and experience romance on your own? Sitting in front of the fireplace with a good book? Taking a walk at sundown with a cup of hot chocolate? Preparing a special mean for yourself that you never take the time to do?
  • As much as people in general associate it with a romantic partner, it doesn’t mean you have to. Do you want to experience Valentine’s Day with a good friend? Or a family member?
  • Life itself can be a romance, whether you are on your own or not – learn how to celebrate each and every day AND make all special occasions a romantic experience for yourself

Chocolate and Valentine’s Day

  • Most of us associate Valentine’s Day with chocolate
  • Like relationships, chocolate can be either incredibly beneficial or incredibly detrimental
  • Junk chocolate is full of toxins, including sugar, unhealthy calories, etc.
  • Good chocolate has over 1400 compounds that the body can use wisely
  • Unhealthy chocolate like unhealthy relationships cause stress to the mind and the body
  • Whether you are on your own or in a romantic relationship, you may want to make something chocolate as opposed to buying something chocolate
  • You may want to read my Book on Chocolate: DrHollyBooks.com Chocolate really is a phenomenal food that has a long history. It is a fruit. In fact, what we know as chocolate comes from the seeds of the cocoa fruit.
  • Chocolate has vitamins like Vitamins B2, B9 and B12, C, E, and K
  • Minerals like calcium, copper, iron, magnesium, manganese, phosphorous, potassium, selenium and zinc
  • Wonderful omega 3s
  • Oleic acid which is an omega 9 is beneficial to the cardiovascular system and increases HDL and reduces LDL AND predominates over the palmitic acid; (palmitic is found in low levels, and is known to increase cholesterol concentrations)
  • Stearic acids – which doesn’t effect cholesterol levels because it is converted to stearic acid)
  • Good pre and probiotics
  • Wonderful neurotransmitters and neuropeptides associated with ‘feeling good’
  • Chocolate is also well known for its powerful polyphenols: procyanidins and epicatechins. Now these two groups of bioflavonoids, one of the many categories of polyphenols, are incredibly powerful as:
  • Powerful antioxidant due to the polyphenols and in particular the procyanidins which are 5x higher in dark chocolate than milk chocolate
  • Theobromine is one of the polyphenols and does better at stopping coughing than prescriptions
  • Proanthocyanins are another polyphenol – condensed tannin – powerful antioxidants – 20x higher than Vit C and 50 times higher than Vit E – they also strengthen arteries and veins and lower blood pressure; slow neuropathy development in diabetics; and diabetes induced cataract formation
  • Specific antioxidant for the skin protecting it from UV damage
  • The polyphenols upgrade nitric oxide in the body – allows for arterial expansion/contraction – vasodilator and vascular endothelial growth factor – i.e. strength the membrane lining of the vascular system
  • Has very good cardio benefits – it is a leading food for magnesium content which is an antiarrhythmic (irregular heart rhythms) and hypotensive (used to treat high blood pressure)
  • Powerful anti-inflammatory
  • Protects nerves from injury and inflammation that cause problems with Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, depression, strokes, etc.
  • Contains various neurotransmitters and neuropeptides associated with “feeling good”
  • Catechins and epicatechins also increase cerebral blood flow which helps to protect the brain
  • Reverse insulin resistance and reverse diabetes!!
  • Stimulates redox-sensitive signaling pathways involved in gene expression AND immune response
  • Increases sense of satiety – or feeling full – and thus can help with weight loss
  • The copper component is used as a cofactor for a number of enzymes; glucose metabolism; iron transport and various growth and development issues
  • The potassium component can help protect against sodium overload
  • The iron component protects against anemia and hemoglobin issues causing fatigue and shortness of breath
  • The polyphenols do cause the bitterness (which is combated by the omega 3s) are 5x higher in the dark chocolate

Yup I definitely want to indulge in some good healthy chocolate for Valentine’s Day

Stress and Valentine’s Day

There is an old saying, ‘Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you chose to do with it’. It is a good line to live by.

I was on my own for 15 years on Valentine’s Day. I didn’t let society and tradition determine what Valentine’s Day would be like for me. For those 15 years, I celebrated Valentine’s Day by making my favorite dish every year – Lobster Thermidor. I set the table in red with candles. Put on the fireplace and made it a special day for me.

With Tom, it was different. He had come to love romance and he set the candles and made Lobster Thermidor with me. He was awesome. And now I have to celebrate with him on the other side. We will still choose to make it a good romantic day.

So, whether you are in a romantic relationship or not…I challenge you…find your own way to celebrate you and life on Valentine’s Day? Chose to make it a good memory.

Happy Valentine’s Day

 

Wednesdays at NOON PST  / 3PM EST – The Whole Health Initiative with Dr Holly  – An NFTS Global Luminary  broadcasting from Canada since March 2014 –   Dr Holly is a Doctor of Natural Medicine, a scientist, a professional speaker, an author of Cancer: Why what you don’t know about your treatment could harm you and 12 other books and a practitioner.  As a Doctor of Natural Medicine with 7 degrees & 3 designations in a wide range of healing modalities and 20 years experience, she can assist you in identifying and understanding your path to health. She can identify your underlying life themes, coping mechanisms, value systems and defense mechanisms to understanding the physiology and biochemistry and energy patterns of your body.  She has a mobile health clinic that comes to your door and can assess 1000s of variables in front of you AND create a protocol unique to you.  In addition, she provides consultation for physicians and clients around the world.